Going to Bed Angry

"I have a tough time sleeping until I have my say!" echoes a friend who has woken her husband at 2 a.m. just to make a painstakingly worded point.

Some friends agree that disputes should end when the day does. "There's nothing worse," says a young woman I know, "than waking up the next morning only to realize, 'Great, we still have that to deal with.'"

But should such disagreements be debated on your pillow-top Posturepedic? "Go to bed mad, but don't go to sleep mad," advises one husband. "Work out the kinks while you're warm and cozy. Beds don't have doors to slam — and turning over and looking away is not nearly as frustrating as walking away."

Others say bed is the first place they head when they're pissed at their partners. "I'm too tired to deal with it at night, which isn't conducive to a rational discussion," says one gal.

If you're lucky, sleep can do more than mitigate a fight; it can prevent it outright. "I've gone to bed angry and woken up happy that I didn't express it the night before," admits another friend. "Morning light seems to shrink the issues."

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